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Lessons from DWD (Date With Destiny) #5

Mastery and not needing perfection

There are different levels of mastery.

1. Cognitive Mastery – When you have intellectual understanding of something. But that doesn’t mean you apply what you know.
(Example: Someone says: ‘Why not change your physiology’ and you think: ‘I’ll f**king change your physiology.’)

2. Emotional Mastery.

3. Physical Mastery – Where it is ‘in’ your body and you just ‘go there’.
(Example: You have total confidence to tie your shoelace. It’s not something you even have to think about, it is so automatic.)

And perfection…. what about that?

The lowest standard is perfection because it is the most impossible to meet. So you are basically saying your aiming for something you acknowledge is impossible.

Tony Robbins was on stage with the DWD participant who had earlier taken part in an exercise to fold items of clothing from a laundry basket. She had strict rules about needing to achieve perfection in areas of her life, and this was highlighted as a hinderance to her enjoying life.

TR asked her this: What if you failed to fail, and failed to be perfect both simultaneously?
She replied: I’d just get on with it and be happy – every day. That would be lovely.

TR wondered how she would it feel if , instead of persuing the old unachievable goal of being perfect (and beating herself up for failing to reach that), she could tell herself ‘I’m good enough’. Or if she was folding the laundry basket clothes and took the attitude that ‘I’m doing good enough.’

Perfection kills life.

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